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a different view

Posted by suzanne <ldyblusuz@hotmail.com> on Sat, 23 Apr 2005, in response to i need my daddy!, posted by Elizabeth Wadsworth on Sat, 20 Mar 2004

Hi Elizabeth,
I too am adopted. A good daddy is hard to find. Fo9r medical reasons I can understand your concern. To be aware of any history of medical problems is to be aware of your bodys changes. That is all I wish I had.

I have a different philosophy about it. And it's made me a better person.

You have the unique opportunity to invent yourself. You have no pressure to be like daddy or aunt susie. You are you. A unique and independent being. The future is yours to create.

So many folks have the misguided notion that they want their child to grow up to be just like them or have the pressure top do what they themselves didnot/couldnot.

You can find your own way....It's hard to let go of the pressures of others sometimes you just have to be firm with friends. In my situation, people were shocked they I had no urge to run out and hunt my parents down....I figured they had a good reason to do what they did and I am better off without their baggage. I am not trying to sound cold but isn't the world tough enough already?

The more I found out about my mothers family the more I understood the reasons for adoption on her side. Daddy's a mystery. But he wants to be...I had health problems that tended to be hereditary and wish I had known to be on the lookout for, but now I am just careful and mindful of my body. That may be tougher for you being younger and still developing. Just take care of yourself medically and mentally you are your own girl. What an opportunity! The freedom to be your own wonderful self!

Be Strong. Be yourself. Keep an open mind, and the very best of wishes.

Ladybluesuzanne

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